Family should be the one group of people that you trust above everyone else. But, let’s face it, this is not the case in every household across the planet. This has inspired one TikTok user to post a video about how she wishes to raise her daughter.
She will not leave her child alone with male relatives nor will they be allowed to attend sleepovers. She sparked up quite a debate among other parents. Some agree with her, but others say her choices are somewhat controversial.
Aubrey is a mother of two and has shared some powerful views on how she chooses to raise her children. The modern world is a wild environment, so this mother ensures her kids grow up with as much safety as possible.
On Tiktok, Audrey goes by @theorganicmami, and she has just over 2000 followers, but they’re climbing by the day. She made a get-ready-with-me video on her TikTok account where she openly expressed her methods for raising her daughter.
Audrey started the video off by saying she refuses to let her daughter sleep over at someone’s house. Most people would agree. But, not many would doubt their own family members, and not allow them to sleep at their grandparent’s house.
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Audrey will not even allow her daughter to be alone with her male relatives. “No sleepovers,” she said. “Nope. Not even with family members. And she will never be left alone with a male. I don’t care if you’re the grandparent, the uncle, or the cousin.”
So, neither her daughter nor her son will be allowed to go out late because it’s not safe for either of them in Audrey’s eyes. “For instance, me letting my son go out late but not my daughter because it’s too dangerous for a woman,” said Audrey. “I’m just going to treat them both the same.”
When it comes to showing affection, Audrey expressed that her daughter will not have to receive hugs or kisses if she doesn’t want to. This applies to friends, as well as her relatives. “Secrets will not be kept from your parents. And if you’re one of those people now saying ‘I’ll give you candy when your mum’s not here, just don’t tell her’, that’s the quickest way to never see us again,” she said.
Moreover, Audrey is adamant that her daughter will be free to feel emotions the way she chooses. Nor will she have to go through public schooling. “She doesn’t have to respect you if you don’t also respect her, as a child she still will have opinions and emotions and she is allowed to feel a certain way,” Audrey shared.
Naturally, the comments section was filled with a diverse amount of opinions. Some parents were completely on board with her plans. One person wrote, “[People are] getting mad about the no sleepovers rule, but it’s actually good speaking from my childhood experiences.” Another wrote, “My mom did the no sleepovers thing [with] me when I was younger and I was upset but later found out one I was invited to 3 girls got [sexually assaulted] by the stepdad.”
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On the other hand, some people were confused by her decisions. Many expressed that the best memories they had were at sleepovers and that her children are going to miss out on a lot of fun. One teenager wrote from her own experience of not being allowed to attend sleepovers. “I’m not allowed to have sleepovers and I hate my mom for it [so much] I missed out on a ton of stuff,” she wrote.
Another person wrote, “If you know the parents and the kid, i don’t see the harm in sleepovers, they’re honestly some of my best memories.” Lastly, another person asked her why she doesn’t trust her own male relatives. They wrote, “Why do you not trust your brother or dad? Do you leave her alone with her dad??”