When Debbi met Steve in 2011, she thought she had finally found the love of her life. He was kind, caring, and made her feel safe. But as their relationship grew, so did something else\u2014Debbi\u2019s overwhelming jealousy. Her extreme measures to keep Steve faithful have left many people shocked.<\/p>\n
Jealousy is a normal part of relationships, but for some, it turns into an obsession. For Debbi, it became something she couldn\u2019t control. She was so afraid of losing Steve that she started making him take lie detector tests every time he came home. It was her way of making sure he was being faithful.<\/p>\n
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\nDebbi and Steve\u2019s story began when they met through a mutual friend on Facebook. At the time, Debbi was living in Scotland, and Steve was in London. After weeks of messaging back and forth, Debbi took a leap of faith and traveled to London to meet him in person.<\/p>\n
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\n\u201cI knew we were meant to be together when we shared our first kiss under London Bridge,\u201d Debbi recalled. \u201cI didn\u2019t plan on falling in love again after my last relationship, but Steve stole my heart.\u201d<\/p>\n
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\nTheir connection was instant and powerful. They started making plans for the future, moving in together, and eventually getting married.<\/p>\n
Debbi admitted that she and Steve didn\u2019t always see eye to eye, but she knew deep down that he was the one. \u201cWhen you\u2019ve got a good man, you don\u2019t let him go, do you?\u201d she said in an interview on ITV\u2019s This Morning.<\/p>\n
But soon, Debbi\u2019s jealousy began to take over their lives. She was diagnosed with Othello Syndrome, a rare psychiatric disorder that makes a person believe their partner is cheating, even when there is no evidence. Her past experiences made her paranoia even worse.<\/p>\n
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\n\u201cAt first, I was just an average jealous woman,\u201d Debbi admitted. \u201cBut after being cheated on in a previous abusive relationship, my jealousy got worse and worse.\u201d<\/p>\n
As a result, she started forcing Steve to take lie detector tests whenever she doubted him.<\/p>\n
Steve explained on This Morning that the tests weren\u2019t as frequent as they used to be. \u201cAt one point, I was taking them multiple times a week. Now, it\u2019s more like once in a blue moon.\u201d<\/p>\n
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\nStill, Steve\u2019s life was under Debbi\u2019s strict control. He loved watching football and Formula 1, but even that wasn\u2019t safe. Debbi monitored what he watched, worried that he might be secretly looking at women in the audience. Sometimes, she even banned him from watching television altogether.<\/p>\n
\u201cAll women have an inner beauty,\u201d she said, \u201cbut for a man, it goes beyond that. It\u2019s not just about admiring beauty\u2014it\u2019s about mentally lusting after them. And I can\u2019t allow that.\u201d<\/p>\n
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\nTo make sure Steve wasn\u2019t straying, Debbi took even more drastic steps. She installed child-proof filters on his phone and laptop, blocking any explicit content. She even admitted that if Steve went out for just 15 minutes to buy milk, she would make him take a lie detector test when he got back.<\/p>\n
\u201cI get so anxious that he might have been flirting with the shop assistant. I have to know the truth,\u201d she confessed.<\/p>\n
Debbi\u2019s obsession was highlighted in a documentary by Only Human in 2019. In one scene, after a rare outing to a local shop, Debbi immediately made Steve take a lie detector test using an app on her phone.<\/p>\n
\u201cDid you notice any women in the shop?\u201d she asked him.<\/p>\n
Steve shook his head. \u201cCan\u2019t say as I did. No.\u201d<\/p>\n
Relieved, Debbi smiled. \u201cI\u2019m impressed. You\u2019re telling the truth.\u201d<\/p>\n
But then, she decided to push further. \u201cDo you find Mel B attractive?\u201d<\/p>\n
Steve\u2019s response was a firm \u201cNo.\u201d But when the app showed his answer as a lie, Debbi wasn\u2019t convinced. She made him take the test again and again, each time accusing him of lying.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe app is at least 60% accurate,\u201d she argued. \u201cIt\u2019s basically a polygraph.\u201d<\/p>\n
Debbi\u2019s struggles didn\u2019t end with her jealousy. In addition to Othello Syndrome, she also suffered from bipolar disorder and body dysmorphic disorder, which made her insecurities even worse.<\/p>\n
Her jealousy reached its peak when they moved in together. She kept a close watch on Steve\u2019s online activity, blocking him from watching any content that featured women.<\/p>\n
\u201cOne night, an advert for a women\u2019s razor came on TV, and I panicked,\u201d she admitted. \u201cI thought Steve was staring at the model.\u201d<\/p>\n
The fear consumed her so much that she ordered a lie detector machine online, just to make sure Steve wasn\u2019t looking at other women.<\/p>\n
In 2015, Debbi appeared in a Channel 5 documentary, 87 Stone: Fat Chance of Work. But instead of portraying her struggles fairly, she said the documentary focused too much on her weight.<\/p>\n
\u201cThey made it look like I was just bossing Steve around,\u201d she complained. \u201cBut in reality, he was helping me through a tough time.\u201d<\/p>\n
The backlash was brutal. People on social media sent her cruel messages and even threats. The online abuse became so intense that Debbi didn\u2019t want to leave the house anymore.<\/p>\n
Despite everything, Debbi and Steve found ways to cope. They spent a lot of time gaming together, which Debbi said helped her control her jealousy.<\/p>\n
\u201cPlaying Xbox keeps my mind busy,\u201d she explained. \u201cIt stops me from obsessing over what Steve is doing all the time.\u201d<\/p>\n
Research shows that about 15% of people with Othello Syndrome have been violent toward their partners. Debbi admitted she had moments where her jealousy got the best of her.<\/p>\n
\u201cThere were times when I threw things across the room in frustration,\u201d she said. \u201cI\u2019ve put Steve through a lot, but he\u2019s stuck by me. That\u2019s how I know he\u2019s the one.\u201d<\/p>\n
She believed other women might be suffering from the same condition without realizing it. \u201cSociety puts so much pressure on women to look a certain way,\u201d she said. \u201cI think that\u2019s why so many of us struggle with jealousy. I\u2019m lucky Steve understands me\u2014not everyone has that.\u201d<\/p>\n
Steve, despite everything, insisted Debbi was worth it.<\/p>\n
\u201cSometimes I get nervous during the lie detector tests, and my heart races, which makes the results come back inconclusive. That just makes Debbi doubt me even more,\u201d he admitted. \u201cBut I just tell her I haven\u2019t cheated and hope she believes me. I love her, and a little jealousy isn\u2019t going to change that.\u201d<\/p>\n
To build her confidence, Debbi is now hoping to get gastric band surgery. She believes it will not only improve her physical health but also help her feel better about herself.<\/p>\n
\u201cI wasn\u2019t always overweight,\u201d she said. \u201cMy small frame is carrying an extra ten or eleven stone, and it\u2019s too much for my body.\u201d<\/p>\n
She hopes the surgery will help her regain a sense of normalcy and enjoy life more with Steve.<\/p>\n
Through all their challenges, Debbi and Steve\u2019s relationship has remained intact. Despite the ups and downs, they continue to fight for their love, proving that even the most complicated relationships can endure.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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