Gabby, eight months pregnant, plans to attend her sister\u2019s opulent wedding. Instead, she receives an outlandish \u201cfamily duty\u201d that tests her. Gabby must choose loyalty or self-respect on the big day.<\/p>\n
People gasp, soften their features, and say I must be \u201cexhausted\u201d when I tell them I\u2019m eight months pregnant.<\/p>\n
Their knowledge is limited. I adore feeling my baby kick, but the weight is aging my joints. However, orbiting my sister Tara is easier than pregnancy.<\/p>\n
People have always revolved around Tara. As a child, she helped rather than asked. Not wanting to upset her, you agreed to escape her wrath.<\/p>\n
She dropped her bombshell when I was cross-legged on her living room floor putting fake peonies on centerpiece bases.<\/p>\n
She smoothed her planner with manicured nails and announced free transportation for all wedding guests. Gabby, make it chic.<\/p>\n
Cold fingertips, heated glue gun, slight smell of burnt plastic. I looked up.<\/p>\n
\u201cOkay, Tara,\u201d I said softly. \u201cBut how? You told me food broke your budget. So we use fake flowers.\u201d<\/p>\n
She didn\u2019t look up from her couch.<\/p>\n
\u201cWell, Gabrielle,\u201d she continued, evidently, \u201cyour husband\u2019s transportation business has cars. This is simple for him. Kids\u2019 play.\u201d<\/p>\n
I stared, wondering if I heard wrong. Her tone was too casual, like this was chosen without me.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou haven\u2019t talked to Timothy,\u201d I answered, calmly despite the burning in my chest. \u201cHe said nothing.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou can talk to him, Gabby,\u201d she waved. \u201cHe hears you.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNot the point.\u201d<\/p>\n
Tara looked up, angry, like I was the issue.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s fine, Gabby. Your family\u2019s business. Having cars and drivers, why not help your sister on her big day?<\/p>\n
I pushed myself up, hands on carpet, baby kicking to fight the movement.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou expect me to drive, Tara?\u201d I asked knowing her response.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019re pregnant, so you\u2019ll be the \u2018sober\u2019 one,\u201d she remarked. \u201cYou won\u2019t dance all night.\u201d<\/p>\n
My chest squeezed from suffocation, not the baby. Unable to breathe.<\/p>\n
\u201cTara, I\u2019ll be almost nine months pregnant on your wedding day. Want me to drive intoxicated strangers at midnight?<\/p>\n
\u201cThey\u2019re not strangers!\u201d she interrupted, as if it solved things. I call them pals. Rich pals. Classic and glamorous are my goals.\u201d<\/p>\n
She was obsessed with appearances.<\/p>\n
Tara always prioritized image before expense and sentiments. She pretended sophistication to hide her transactional nature.<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t reply. Even though I tried to be calm, my heart raced and hands shook. Texted Timothy.<\/p>\n
\u201cCan you pick me up? Please?\u201d<\/p>\n
He immediately replied, \u201cOn my way, love. Tacos for you.\u201d<\/p>\n
Ten minutes later, he arrived. Back throbbing from floorwork, I stood disoriented. Tara scarcely looked up from her laptop.<\/p>\n
\u201cOh, Gabby?\u201d I heard her call at the door. \u201cThank Timothy beforehand. Know he\u2019ll deliver. Family does that.\u201d<\/p>\n
I told Timothy everything over tacos in the car. Expected rage, maybe a sharp exhale.<\/p>\n
He was peaceful\u2014the kind of calm that comes with a decision.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe printed the programs,\u201d I said. They remark, \u2018Complimentary luxury transportation by the bride\u2019s sister and brother-in-law, courtesy of their company.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n
He drove silently and smiled as he touched my thigh.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t worry, Gabby. Tara will receive her desired outcome, but not as expected.<\/p>\n
Saturday night\u2019s wedding at an extravagant upstate winery featured Tara\u2019s \u201cunderstated elegance,\u201d with fifteen chandeliers and a string quartet flown in.<\/p>\n
It demanded money before you left the automobile.<\/p>\n
Comfortable in a blue maternity dress and flats, I took short breaths to relieve rib tightness. I felt like The Dutiful Sister\u2014polished but invisible\u2014rather than a visitor.<\/p>\n
Timothy\u2019s company supplied five shiny automobiles with calm, authoritative drivers. The guests were impressed, as Tara hoped.<\/p>\n
Tara hugged me briefly before the ceremony, with chilly arms. \u201cYou didn\u2019t let me down, Gabby!\u201d she whispered. \u00abI wasn\u2019t sure you would, with pregnant brain\u00bb<\/p>\n
\u201cI wouldn\u2019t miss it, Tara,\u201d I smiled.<\/p>\n
Perfect ceremony under extravagant flower arch. Mom and others cried on cue. Cameras clicked nonstop.<\/p>\n
Loud reception with expensive linen napkins. My baby and I loved the deserts.<\/p>\n
But the rides were the highlight. Timothy prevented us from driving. Our drivers managed everything.<\/p>\n
Each guest was handled like royalty\u2014doors opened, identities confirmed, routes explained. At their destination, drivers remarked, \u201cThat\u2019ll be $50. The bride stated her guests are classy enough to pay. Card or cash.\u201d<\/p>\n
Some laughed, thinking it was a joke. People were confused. A woman held her pearls. Tara said free! Someone else may have driven me.\u201d<\/p>\n
Drivers grin. We were informed otherwise. Sorry about the confusion.\u201d<\/p>\n
By midnight, Tara\u2019s phone was anarchy. Customers texted, called, and confronted her in the bar to ask why they were charged. She ignored the storm while posing in her stunning satin gown.<\/p>\n
After guests left and fairy lights dimmed, Tara found me.<\/p>\n
\u2018Gabby,\u2019 she muttered, flowers smashed, cosmetics smudged. \u201cWhat the hell is happening?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou mean what?\u201d I asked innocently, tilting my head.<\/p>\n
Everyone is charged! You said Timothy would handle it!\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHe did,\u201d I said. Like a pro charging for a service.\u201d<\/p>\n
She yelled, \u201cYou embarrassed me!\u201d I printed it for free, Gabby! Understand what that means?<\/p>\n
I said \u201cYes, Tara.\u201d \u201cYou printed it. Without our consent.\u201d<\/p>\n
She held her bouquet, jaw twitching, ready to throw.<\/p>\n
\u201cGabby, where\u2019s the money?\u201d She demanded.<\/p>\n
\u201cIn business,\u201d I said. As with any client.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMy sister!\u201d She shrieked. \u201cYour family duty!\u201d<\/p>\n
Timothy supported my back with his hand. I got you, babe.<\/p>\n
\u201cYour rich friends, Tara,\u201d I added. I imagined they\u2019d pay classily.\u201d<\/p>\n
Her mouth opened, speechless. Timothy held my arm as I left.<\/p>\n
Next day, Tara called. I remained silent. Rage and tears filled her voicemail.<\/p>\n
She texted two days later: \u201cYou destroyed my big day, Gabrielle. I\u2019ll never forgive you.\u201d<\/p>\n
Staring at the screen, I thumbed erase and set the phone down.<\/p>\n
Three days after my OB-GYN checkup, with swollen legs and sour candy on my belly, I felt calm in the van. The doctor declared the baby perfect, head down, heartbeat strong, and ready for natural birth.<\/p>\n
\u201cKeeping the gender a surprise?\u201d she questioned.<\/p>\n
\u201cWe are,\u201d Timothy smiled. \u201cBest surprise.\u201d<\/p>\n
She grinned, \u201cLove that.\u201d<\/p>\n
A couple weeks until our baby arrived.<\/p>\n
\u201cIce cream?\u201d Looking over, Timothy asked.<\/p>\n
I thought you\u2019d never ask.<\/p>\n
Toward our favorite family-owned soft waffle cone business.<\/p>\n
\u201cI can\u2019t believe Tara tried to make your third trimester an Uber shift,\u201d he added.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe thought she was generous,\u201d I laughed. \u201cOffering me the \u2018honor\u2019 of driving drunk strangers at midnight on swollen feet.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNext time she wants a favor,\u201d he added, \u201cwe\u2019re booked with naps and feedings.\u201d<\/p>\n
He helped me like a baby in the shop. We ate two scoops\u2014mint chip for him, strawberry cheesecake for me\u2014on a shaded bench.<\/p>\n
\u201cThis is perfect,\u201d I said, taking a taste.<\/p>\n
You okay? Soft-eyed Timothy asked.<\/p>\n
\u201cI think.\u201d<\/p>\n
He said, \u201cWe did the right thing,\u201d putting his head on my shoulder.<\/p>\n
\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cShe\u2019ll get over it,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n
\u201cOr she won\u2019t, Tim. That\u2019s OK. Everyone matures.\u201d<\/p>\n
He grinned, \u201cYou don\u2019t sound too upset.<\/p>\n
Relief filled me as I grinned.<\/p>\n
First time in forever, I\u2019m not. Thank goodness that happened before the baby. Not for selfish individuals once they arrive.\u201d<\/p>\n
Boundaries are first disempowering. They feel guilty, like betraying someone who taught love requires sacrifice.<\/p>\n
After too long, they\u2019re like air\u2014breathing freely.<\/p>\n
I was tired of orbiting someone who never requested to be pulled in.<\/p>\n
Our child deserves a mother who can love without losing herself.<\/p>\n
Tara may maintain her tantrums and control. Mom and Dad are better titles for Timothy and me.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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